people

Not Getting Good Vibes

Since I generally talk about homes and stuff, I figured I’d change it up and talk about my romantic life.  Of course it depends on your personality, however this kind of thing can actually make a big influence on everything that is going on in your life.  That could be selling houses, buying houses, or whatever.  When I talk to my friends it seems that we usually mention our relationships. It’s weird but I’m like the only one of my friends who is frustrated with their romance right now. The reasons aren’t important, but it sucks to have your friends bragging about how awesome everything is and you’re like yeah, I wish it was that way for my situation. Basically I’ve been dating a woman I met and things are going kind of well but it’s one of those situation in which you feel that you should probably leave the relationship but you kind of like the person. It’s not that it’s bad, it’s just that I don’t think we really have the same interests. But anyway, my friends rule. They were telling me how they’ve met people that they get along with so well that it’s not even normal. I have dated someone like that before and I really liked it. So I’m glad for them. But I have been thinking that I should probably either start a conversation with the girl I’m dating or just go ahead and break up with her. Which I don’t want to do. But I kind of do. The more I read about this definition of rules in a relationship the more I’m thinking I should probably just break up.

But my friends are in that phase where all they do is talk about their girlfriends. And you know how it’s like that when you s tart dating someone. But I think that most of the reason is because most of them are pretty gleeful in their lives anyway so they just want to mention the things they like. They always do that. There’s nothing wrong with it. But it really make you think about how you should be in a couple status if you aren’t really thinking that you’re going to like it. I mean you can be with someone and have things be going fine but you know that on some level it’s not the way it needs to be. I don’t like that dynamic. But that’s what I’ve started so I probably need to be the one to be like hey, I think we have to talk. But after I do that it’s just going ton be full of sorrow and worry and concern because that’s what happens when someone says those things. But this woman is cool and she is probably experiencing the same emotions. So I think that I’m going to have to talk to her about this. That’s my relationship for you.

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Outside Setups

Selling a home is largely a function of making someone want to buy the house.  In order to do this, people will try to make their homes look really nice by setting up a good theme in their home using different furniture and having everything arranged the way you might see it if you were looking through a catalog.  In this way, prospective buyers can see how the house could look and if it seems really welcoming they may be more easily able to see themselves in it, and that might make them more likely to buy it.

This is often a strategy used by real estate agents, as well, to help the homes they have listed get more buyers.

People will do this in the living room and the kitchen because those are popular rooms, but I have also seen it done outside.  If a home has an outdoor gathering place such as a garden, they might have some garden furniture set up.  It’s a good way to show off the way the backyard can be used because people might want to get a home that has a good patio space where they have unwind.

I actually like seeing this because it shows that the house is more than just a place where you might want to do things inside, but it also lets you experience the full impression that a house can show.  A good outdoor space can be a selling point for homes, especially if it looks nice.  It can be a good idea to get some metal garden furniture to put out there so that people walking through the home can see what could be done with the outdoor area.

Because this kind of thing is so popular, if you are thinking about selling your home you might want to meet with someone to help you set everything up to make it lofty and ready to be seen by everyone who is going to go to the showing and view it to see if they would put it in their group of homes they like and on which they are thinking about bidding.  The way a house shows can make the difference between having lots of offers and not having anyone think it is worth their inspection.  So although it may seem a bit under-utilized, getting your house set up that way is definitely something to consider.

A Nice Place I Saw

This one just came on the market/I saw it yesterday. Smaller than the other one in the building (that I put the offer on), but also lower taxes and HOA.

New one: higher floor (awesome views of Chicago and the lake, but also over the Metra but up high enough it’s not a big deal – the train was there while I was viewing it and it was fine), smaller (just under 700 sq ft), no bathtub, smaller bedroom, no walk-in closet, more open kitchen, more open floorplan, no foyer, lower taxes/HOAs would save me ~$200/month, carpet, corner unit, parking space on the ground floor of the garage so I’d have to take an elevator up to my floor, more counterspace (i think) with bfast bar

Original one: wood floors in main area, bigger (just under 900 sq ft) higher taxes/HOAs, extra linen closet, massive walk-in closet, less open floorplan, real entryway/foyer, crappy views (busy street, lower floor so still seeing businesses rather than skyline and lake, no Metra though), parking space on the same floor so non need to use elevator when bringing in groceries, across from the greenspace/rooftop garden, down the hall from the gym/pool (convenient, but anyone who wants to go has to walk by my door), kitchen is in a corner rather than being open to the apartment, no breakfast bar but has separate dining area, double sink (kinda), has bathtub

Both have same size laundry closet and equally crappy cabinets and counters.

Keeping Trust

I was just talking to one of my friends about trust and relationships and his opinion was that you can always keylog the person and see what they’re really up to. I don’t think that’s a good idea, in fact, I think it’s best to not even be with someone if you don’t trust them. I mean what are you going to do, always have that nagging feeling that they’re not being truthful with you? That’s going to drive you nuts! And even if you snoop or whatever and don’t find anything, it’s not going to set your mind at ease because you’re already feeling that way. It’s so much better to be with someone who you trust and don’t even feel the need to go looking through their things.

Trust me, I know. I’ve been in that situation before where you just don’t quite trust the other person but you can’t put your finger on why. It sucks. You’re always wondering what they’re up to, and it’s actually kind of ironic because those people are usually always suspicious of you, and you haven’t even done anything. Am I right?  So you wonder what you’ve actually done which just makes you feel a little bit crazy, and sometimes you go out of your way to prove that you’re not doing anything bad, almost as if it’s like “see?  I told you I’m not doing anything!”  But that never works, possibly because the other person has a guilty conscience to begin with.  You also might notice that they don’t actually do anything themselves to help you feel better, yet they are the shady one and always want you to explain yourself.  It’s kind of easy to get caught up in that situation without realizing it, and then looking back on it you’re just like wow… how did that even happen?  And you make sure it never happens again.

It’s always best to only date people that you trust.  It’s so much easier to relax and enjoy life in that type of situation.  The energy is so much better and positive and you can just enjoy each other’s company without that nagging feeling in the back of your mind like something is wrong, and wondering what the other person is up to.  In fact, I would even say that if your relationship has you worrying about anything like that at all it’s best to find someone else to date instead.

Pet Cats

So my girlfriend has two cats and they drive me crazy. I am not a cat person at all. I think they are sneaky, smelly and annoying. I think it’s true when people say you are either a dog person or cat person. I am 100% a dog person. They are much better behaved and they go to the bathroom outside.

One of the things that really angers me about cats is that they pretty much sleep all day and then they come alive at night, when I am trying to sleep. I constantly hear them running around chasing each other night. When they are not chasing each other making noise they are playing with something they found on the ground and being loud about it.  I also think they watch me.  If they were people they would be hackers and would spy on me.  They would make good spies.  When I was growing up we had cats and dogs and the cats would always creep around and spy on the dogs and the dogs would just be doing their thing.  They were all friendly with each other but they still kind of crept around.

One day last summer one of her cats ran away. My girlfriend was so sad when he ran away, but I kept telling her that cats run away all the time and he will be back. She knew I was happy that he was gone but was appreciative that I was consoling her. After 5 days of Danielle being gone I came to the conclusion that he was gone for good. He had been an indoors cat his whole life and I figured he got lost out in the wild. My girlfriend kept putting food outside but each morning she woke up the food was still there. I was surprised that the food was still there, I thought a raccoon would come along and at least eat the food, but nothing. Eventually he did come back, though.  I woke up one morning and there he was sitting by the back door crying.  The poor cat looked pathetic. It was clear he had not eaten in a while because he was very skinny. I let him in the house and brought him upstairs and woke up my girlfriend. She was so excited to have him home even though he smelled horrible.

So for now I still have to deal with two cats, but I told her that once these cats pass we are not getting anymore. She agreed to that mainly because I don’t think she enjoys cleaning up after them. Bad news is that they are still very young. Oh well maybe Danielle will take another vacation this summer.