Month: December 2013

Keeping Trust

I was just talking to one of my friends about trust and relationships and his opinion was that you can always keylog the person and see what they’re really up to. I don’t think that’s a good idea, in fact, I think it’s best to not even be with someone if you don’t trust them. I mean what are you going to do, always have that nagging feeling that they’re not being truthful with you? That’s going to drive you nuts! And even if you snoop or whatever and don’t find anything, it’s not going to set your mind at ease because you’re already feeling that way. It’s so much better to be with someone who you trust and don’t even feel the need to go looking through their things.

Trust me, I know. I’ve been in that situation before where you just don’t quite trust the other person but you can’t put your finger on why. It sucks. You’re always wondering what they’re up to, and it’s actually kind of ironic because those people are usually always suspicious of you, and you haven’t even done anything. Am I right?  So you wonder what you’ve actually done which just makes you feel a little bit crazy, and sometimes you go out of your way to prove that you’re not doing anything bad, almost as if it’s like “see?  I told you I’m not doing anything!”  But that never works, possibly because the other person has a guilty conscience to begin with.  You also might notice that they don’t actually do anything themselves to help you feel better, yet they are the shady one and always want you to explain yourself.  It’s kind of easy to get caught up in that situation without realizing it, and then looking back on it you’re just like wow… how did that even happen?  And you make sure it never happens again.

It’s always best to only date people that you trust.  It’s so much easier to relax and enjoy life in that type of situation.  The energy is so much better and positive and you can just enjoy each other’s company without that nagging feeling in the back of your mind like something is wrong, and wondering what the other person is up to.  In fact, I would even say that if your relationship has you worrying about anything like that at all it’s best to find someone else to date instead.